Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we gave our all, tried different approaches and yet it didn't work out. Does that mean our best just wasn't good enough? No! It means that your
best didn't fit with the situation or environment. Neither does it mean you have failed. In fact, acknowledging when things don't fit or work well together could be one of the best things to ever
happen to you. It is an opportunity to go back to the drawing board and redefine yourself and to find what matches you the best.
This of course doesn't mean that you should quickly jump to conclusions when you face a bump in the road or things get challenging. Life is simply not meant to be a smooth ride all through and that is necessary for personal growth. What I am referring to is the moment of truth when you really have tried it all and you can confidently say: "It is finished. I have given this everything I've got. No more moving forward from here". That moment will be so sincere and personal that you wouldn't need anybody to tell when that moment has come. You will know and there is no shame in that either.
There seems to be this misconception that if something didn't work out it automatically equals failure. But who defines that? This might sound strange but most of the time success and failure is only a matter of perspective. Picture this: You weren't sure in which direction you want to head in your career and based on a friend's recommendation you start working in a bank. Along the line you discover that you are not enjoying the tasks given to you and are not doing particularly well either. But you still keep going, after all it's a job and maybe you are just not giving it your best shot. One day you are told that your performance is not up to standard and that your services are not needed anymore. In other terms, you get fired. Does that mean your life is over? That you are a complete failure? Not at all. On the contrary, that is a blessing in disguise. Now you have the opportunity to go out there and find what really suits you. Sometimes knowing what you don't want could be as good as knowing what you do want. We often find ourselves stuck in the same situation without having the strength or willingness to break free. Taking that leap can be scary but always pays off in the end.
"How do I know that I gave my best?" you might ask. Well, there is really no external measure to tell you if you did your best or not. It is something personal, something you will simply know. Of course there are exams and tests that can measure your performance but what do test results really prove? For example you take an exam and ace it at once. You didn't prepare for it but the subject was something you already had knowledge of. Does that mean you gave your best at the exam? Not really, it was something you already knew. Still, that doesn't change the fact that you got an excellent grade. On the other hand, somebody might have studied for the same exam for weeks, day in and day out and yet merely passed. Does that mean that person didn't give their best? This should illustrate that "your best" is different from the next person's "best". It is really something personal.
Apart from your personal best, your environment could also be a contributing factor to your level of growth and success. Think of plants for instance, different plants require different environments to grow and flourish. Some plants thrive best in dry environments, others in moist. That means you could have all the skills and all the knowledge required to complete a specific task successfully, but your environment could hinder you from really reaching your highest potential. This is another moment of truth. We tend to quickly blame others when things don't work out the way they should but sometimes your environment may simply not be the right fit for you. Yet again, that doesn't mean you did not make an effort or you didn't do your best to fit in. In fact it should concern you if you could fit in anywhere at anytime. Now, I am not talking about going to an event and mingling with people but something more permanent like your workplace for example. The things that make us unique are our morals, thoughts and values. So, how would it then be possible to fit in comfortably everywhere? There is a degree of flexibility we should all have to co-exist, interact and even grow from our exchange with others and people that are different from us. But you should still stay true to yourself. There is nothing wrong with being yourself and different.
In a nutshell, get rid of any thoughts that suggest that you are a failure or that your best was not good enough. "The steps of a [good and righteous] man are directed and established by the Lord , And He delights in his way [and blesses his path]. When he falls, he will not be hurled down, Because the Lord is the One who holds his hand and sustains him." PSALM 37:23-24 AMP As long as you have God ordering your steps your best will always be good enough!