Naturally receiving seems more profitable than being in the position of the giver. Just imagine you're enjoying Christmas with your family and everyone is exchanging gifts. As you hand out one gift after another, you discover that you're the only one that did not receive any Christmas gift at all - ouch! Not a great place to be in. Consequently, it may seem more profitable to put yourself in the position of being the recipient at all times, instead of being the giver. That means that if you end up not receiving anything you will never be at a loss because you didn't give anything either. A classic win-win situation! Well, only in theory.
The truth is that we constantly have to give something to receive another thing in return. That can even be seen in the seemingly small things, for example, our daily transactions. When you enter a grocery store you have to give money to receive your purchased items. At work, you give your time, skills and brain power to receive a salary at the end of the month. Even in situations that have no monetary value attached to them, such as our personal relationships, we invest time and effort to have healthy and happy relationships in return.
With that said, you could divide giving into three categories:
- The investment giving: The giving aspect here is clearly driven by the motivation to receive a return on the initial investment. The intention is strictly monetary and aimed at making a profit.
- The charity giving: This type of giving usually has a more noble intent. It is geared towards giving to those who are in need. Ideally, this should not be attached to receiving anything in return, yet there are people who use this type of giving to pursue other interests, such as polishing their reputation or even financial gain through tax benefits.
- The love giving: That is the master class of giving because it is the purest, most beautiful and at the same time most complex way of giving. Giving from a place of love also means giving from a place of vulnerability. In this state, you give out of love with no strings attached. Yet, some add conditions and things to this form of giving that alters it from its initial purpose of giving. When you give with a loving heart you actually shouldn't be expecting anything in return because eventually you definitely will receive something in return - It could be love, gratitude or a lesson in return.
To sum it up, no matter what, giving is a blessing! Don't be afraid of being a giver, rather see the beauty and benefit of it. There are so many ways to give that it is impossible to shy away from it and that shouldn't be your aim anyway. "In everything I showed you [by example] that by working hard in this way you must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that He Himself said, ‘It is more blessed [and brings greater joy] to give than to receive.’” ACTS 20:35 AMP