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It's not you, it's me.

Who doesn't know the classic breakup line: "It's not you, it's me."? That seems like the perfect excuse to get out of a situation that appears not to be working anymore for one of the people involved. Saying those words is intended as a precautionary measure to avoid any further conflict or drama by simply taking all the blame. As much as it is that safe cushion for an easy exit, there is also a lot of truth in it.

If you think of any negative experience, bad situation, or even recurring pattern, there was always a part that you had to take responsibility for. Something you needed to learn, change, rethink, or change your mindset towards. Let's take a closer look at those recurring patterns that some people turn into headlines about their life experiences. What I'm referring to is: "Nobody ever likes me", "Every time something good happens, something comes along to take it away", "I always meet the wrong people", "My relationships always end in drama." Those are completely false statements that some people have made permanent confessions in their lives causing them to "accept" something that is a complete lie and thereby hindering themselves from addressing the real issue, which is: "changing something about themselves."

If you look at these things rationally, you'll see that you are the common denominator to everything happening in your life. If people are "always" trying to provoke you, maybe it's time to change your attitude and not get provoked so easily. If you seem to be constantly attracting the wrong people romantically maybe it's time to up your standards and critically look at the things you're looking for in a partner. Your expectations might be too shallow, unrealistic, not reflective of what you can bring to the table, and most importantly maybe you are not even mentally and emotionally ready for the kind of relationship you envision. 

The things we declare over our lives and situations are very important. Even when you cannot see what you envisioned or had hoped for at that moment, it doesn't mean you cannot speak those things into existence. There is no loss in speaking positive things over your situation. For example, if you keep declaring that you always meet the right people and make wise decisions, eventually you will - no matter how many wrong turns you took in the past. On the contrary, if you keep confessing negativity, that is also what you will receive. "Your reward depends on what you say and what you do; you will get what you deserve." Proverbs 12:14 GNB

Stop looking at the external things that cause you to behave or think a certain way because the truth is, if you're grounded within yourself, nothing can move you to do anything contrary to your nature. Keep declaring the right things and follow the right path and you'll eventually see the results you want.

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