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The Quality of Words

Often there is this misconception that good communicators are people who naturally talk a lot. You might be surprised to find out that those considered good communicators spend more time listening than they do speaking. And the reason for that is very simple - a productive conversation is based on balancing these three elements: listening, understanding, and then speaking. If you skip one part, there is already an imbalance and you'll be wondering why the conversation is not going anywhere, why you find it challenging to find a consensus, or why you have been going in circles over the same topic. We probably have all been in a situation where we were more occupied with thinking about our response instead of listening to what the other person was saying. And that's when you've already missed the most valuable part - understanding what the other person is trying to articulate without making assumptions. Your response can never be spot on if you fail to listen, take in the information the other person has conveyed, and build your answer around that. Many approach conversations with the intention of winning the argument. But what's the value in that? Nobody will give you an award for getting your point across without even trying to understand the other person's perspective.


Are you aware that prayer follows the same principle? "And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, for they think that they will be heard for their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him." Mat 6:7-8 A lot of people think that prayer is one-way communication - telling God what is in their heart or on their mind. But it is more than that. Prayer is not only about speaking, but also about listening to what God has to say. When we pray God listens and responds. "And since we know he hears us when we make our requests, we also know that he will give us what we ask for." 1 John 5:15 NLT


Practice good communication by listening more, understanding more, and letting your words be meaningful. Choose your words wisely because they are so precious and should always be used for good, to inspire, and uplift.