I recently read an article about the difference between a soulmate and a life partner.
The article was fascinating because most of us have been sold this over-romanticized idea of having to find a soulmate to be forever in love and happy with. But how many of us know the true definition of a soulmate?
For a long time in my career, I felt like a fraud. Like I was selling a dream of skill sets that I thought I had but in reality, didn’t possess. Yes, every time I landed a job I kept thriving and excelling. My work was being acknowledged and appreciated and even though I wondered why I knew that I had a special grace upon my life that always superseded the self-doubts. God was not only with me all the way but kept showing me things about myself that I didn’t even know I had.
Love is the most fundamental part of our existence. Love is complex and multifaceted, yet so simple and easy at the same time. It is the beginning, the end, and the center all at once. It is the reason why some have gone to war and the reason why others have ended them. It is the melody, the notes, and the words to a song. It is the silence and noise in a moment of bliss. The sunshine after the rain. The warm embrace on a cold winter morning.
"Smile and don't let anybody see you're hurting inside." How many times have you been in that situation? You put on a smile and engage in polite conversation when in reality, all you want to do is break down inside. Is that unhealthy, inauthentic or pretentious? Well, I believe there is a huge difference between pretending and not allowing the things that cause you pain to weigh you down.
Imagine you were being honored with a special award for your accomplishments. During the award ceremony, different people would be called on stage to say a few words about you. As you are sitting there in anticipation to hear what they have to say, would you be excited or worried? What would these people have to say about you? What a great person you are and how you inspired their lives? Or that they thought long and hard but just couldn't find any positive words to say about you?
...or created to bless! I believe both work hand in hand. People often overlook that we were called to create, to be productive and give our contribution to this world - beyond a 9 to 5 job. Some consider their profession their calling, and this may be true. I always refer to impacting people's lives because the "me"-zone is a very lonely and empty place. In fact, if everything only revolves around you, it will soon feel as if that space is not even big enough to contain you.
Last week I attended an event that honored people with disabilities who had participated in an art competition. An organization asked people with impairments to send in their drawings, and the selected art pieces would be printed on the wrapping paper of granola bars. The event was organized to unveil and recognize the winners. In retrospect, I can say that it was not only a beautiful and amazing occasion, but for the most part it was empowering.
“If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all.” Many of us are familiar with this saying and interpret it in different ways. Some consider it a poisonous practice of internalizing negative things to avoid conflict instead of facing problems directly. Others consider it a way of diplomacy and focusing on the positive rather than just pointing out the negative.
"She's living her best life!", that was the caption I read on Instagram underneath a picture that was posted of Angela Bassett. The post was solely about how amazing she looked for her age and her sense of fashion and style, but this got me thinking about something else. There was something that caught my attention about "living your best life". Not really about living your best life on the outside but within yourself.
Sometimes I wonder if there is anything in this world that is truly unique. "Find your niche!", they say, but even in that field that may make you unique, you'll still find another person doing exactly what you're doing. And that shouldn't intimidate or discourage you at all because even if that other person is doing exactly what you are doing, they will still be missing one thing and that is: You. Therefore, let yourself be that niche.