When something goes wrong, or there is a crisis, what is the initial reaction? Resolution? Conflict management? Is a meeting called to gather ideas for problem-solving? All of the above? Not really. Usually, the first reaction is to look for who is to blame for what went wrong. Not that it would make the problem go away, reduce the urgency of fixing it or help in resolving the issue. Most of the time it is the exact opposite.
When someone starts a sentence with "Let's be honest,.." what kind of words tend to follow? Something positive or uplifting? Inspiring and motivating? Not quite. "Let's be honest"-sentences usually end with something negative. But let's really be honest, why must it be so? Why do we tend to "be honest" about the negative things but when it comes to things that are praiseworthy, we often let them fall by the side or mutter them under our breath.
Imagine you were being honored with a special award for your accomplishments. During the award ceremony, different people would be called on stage to say a few words about you. As you are sitting there in anticipation to hear what they have to say, would you be excited or worried? What would these people have to say about you? What a great person you are and how you inspired their lives? Or that they thought long and hard but just couldn't find any positive words to say about you?
Who doesn't know the hashtags that talk about goals? - #relationshipgoals #friendshipgoals #fitnessgoals, #hairgoals and the list goes on. But are we setting the right or enough goals in our own lives? Should we aim for relationship goals, for example, because we see a couple smiling into a camera and that automatically makes us assume they are doing great? Have we become that shallow?
...or created to bless! I believe both work hand in hand. People often overlook that we were called to create, to be productive and give our contribution to this world - beyond a 9 to 5 job. Some consider their profession their calling, and this may be true. I always refer to impacting people's lives because the "me"-zone is a very lonely and empty place. In fact, if everything only revolves around you, it will soon feel as if that space is not even big enough to contain you.
When was the last time you stopped someone and asked if they were happy? Not if they were doing good, but if they were really happy. Not outwardly, not momentarily, not according to what society labels as being happy and fulfilled, but deep within. What about yourself? Have you asked yourself that question lately? Are you happy? Take a moment to think before you answer.
I recently read an inspiring post on Facebook about a lady who started succeeding in her business after she started leaving the "small fights for the small fighters." She stopped battling out little and unnecessary arguments with colleagues, in-laws and the other people she interacted with on a daily basis. Instead, she refocused her energy on her goals and dreams and eventually started seeing progress in the things she was passionate about.
A synonym for "to keep in mind" could be "to consider" or "to give consideration." That means you give something you have heard another thought and are processing the information in your mind. Which is great it means your thought processes are working! But are you aware that there is some information that should be blocked out from the beginning and without being processed at all? Proverbs 4:23 (NLT) says: "Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life."
Last week I attended an event that honored people with disabilities who had participated in an art competition. An organization asked people with impairments to send in their drawings, and the selected art pieces would be printed on the wrapping paper of granola bars. The event was organized to unveil and recognize the winners. In retrospect, I can say that it was not only a beautiful and amazing occasion, but for the most part it was empowering.
Forgiveness is a part of life. It's not optional; it's something we ought to do. The Bible says: "Bear with each other, and forgive each other. If someone does wrong to you, forgive that person because the Lord forgave you." Colossians 3:13 NCV