When was the last time you stopped someone and asked if they were happy? Not if they were doing good, but if they were really happy. Not outwardly, not momentarily, not according to what society labels as being happy and fulfilled, but deep within. What about yourself? Have you asked yourself that question lately? Are you happy? Take a moment to think before you answer.
I recently read an inspiring post on Facebook about a lady who started succeeding in her business after she started leaving the "small fights for the small fighters." She stopped battling out little and unnecessary arguments with colleagues, in-laws and the other people she interacted with on a daily basis. Instead, she refocused her energy on her goals and dreams and eventually started seeing progress in the things she was passionate about.
"I've failed!" Only a few people would admit that. Maybe out of fear or insecurity. Some might consider it a sign of weakness. In reality, it's not about admitting that you've failed but what comes afterward. So, if you're one of the few who is honest with themselves and uses their failure as an opportunity to do and be better - congratulations!
If you find yourself thinking about the times you knew you messed up but didn't want to admit it - there's some good news for you:
We all have areas we want to grow in. Either it is something we want to start doing or something we want to stop doing. As difficult as it may seem to find the motivation to start something, getting rid of a habit or a particular mindset can even be more difficult. The thing about progress is that it is usually slow and steady - at times so slow that it seems like we're not progressing at all.
"She's living her best life!", that was the caption I read on Instagram underneath a picture that was posted of Angela Bassett. The post was solely about how amazing she looked for her age and her sense of fashion and style, but this got me thinking about something else. There was something that caught my attention about "living your best life". Not really about living your best life on the outside but within yourself.
At some point in life we all encounter that one person that pushes our buttons. A particular person that seems to be constantly teasing or even mocking us. That person that makes us feel scrutinized or even judged at all times. That unwanted adversary that appears to be in constant competition with us. Someone you want to - just have to prove yourself to.
Ever felt like everybody else was going out having fun and doing great things except you? As if you were stuck in one place while everything around you keeps moving. Everyone around you is smiling while you're sad. That does not sound familiar to you? Then congratulations, either you have mastered the art of keeping yourself so busy to not even entertain this kind of thoughts or you've finally understood that you're movement or standstill is not defined by what people may seem or not...
Sometimes I wonder if there is anything in this world that is truly unique. "Find your niche!", they say, but even in that field that may make you unique, you'll still find another person doing exactly what you're doing. And that shouldn't intimidate or discourage you at all because even if that other person is doing exactly what you are doing, they will still be missing one thing and that is: You. Therefore, let yourself be that niche.
Leading by example is probably one of the most challenging things you will work on your entire life. And the work continues. The reality is that we have become accustomed to holding others to very high standard without really looking at ourselves first. Quick to judge or jump to conclusions, we often want others to change so they can suit us better and fit into the picture we have created.
Do you remember YOLO? You Only Live Once. The buzzword that was all over Social Media. People wrote it on their timelines, used it as hashtags, made videos about it and even wore t-shirts with the expression. YOLO was everywhere. Yet, was it clear to everyone what it really meant?