When you search for dictionary definitions of grace you'll find: "elegance or refinement; courteous goodwill; quality of moving in a smooth, relaxed and attractive way" and many more. But there's something peculiar about grace that prompted me to go further and look at it from a different perspective - the word of God.
"Just be confident!", they say. As if confidence is something you conveniently take out of your bag anytime you need it - for example, if you feel uncomfortable in an interview setting or another potentially stressful situation. You simply tell your opposite: "Please hold on for a second; let me just reach for my confidence." It doesn't really work that way.
Last week I attended an event that honored people with disabilities who had participated in an art competition. An organization asked people with impairments to send in their drawings, and the selected art pieces would be printed on the wrapping paper of granola bars. The event was organized to unveil and recognize the winners. In retrospect, I can say that it was not only a beautiful and amazing occasion, but for the most part it was empowering.
“If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all.” Many of us are familiar with this saying and interpret it in different ways. Some consider it a poisonous practice of internalizing negative things to avoid conflict instead of facing problems directly. Others consider it a way of diplomacy and focusing on the positive rather than just pointing out the negative.
"That is a person of integrity." This expression could be equated to receiving a badge of honor. A statement that commands respect and anybody addressed in this manner can be proud. Then how could integrity be defined? I would say it is a synonym for "staying true to oneself". Something that is one of the most important, and at the same time challenging tasks in this present day. Let's take a closer look at why.
The "what-if"-game and thinking of possible scenarios of what could have been, is one of my most hated exercises. There are not many things I consider a complete waste of time because I believe that there is a lesson in pretty much everything. However, playing through "what-if"-scenarios is one of those few things. What many fail to realize is that "what-ifs" create more questions without providing any answers.